*Hey Siri, play “Flawless” by Beyoncé*
…I woke up like this
I woke up like this
We flawless, ladies tell ’em…
You know the feeling… You’re walking down the street, personal theme song in your head, coffee in hand, on the way to work, and ready to conquer the day. You see yourself in anything that displays your reflection and check yourself out… other people checkin’ you out. You’re THAT girl/guy.
You got that main character energy and ain’t nobody gonna break your stride.
Look, I get it, there are some days you feel like you’re a supporting character to a friend that treats you like an on-call therapist, or a wing-person because they just can’t make the first move. Does it actually work to be a wing-person? I’m asking for a friend. There are also days (or moments) when your inner antagonist comes out until you wash it down with coffee…or cake. I love coffee and cake. They’re a dynamic duo in an elixir that magically transforms you into a pleasant human being.
The main character is who the story is predominantly about. The main character is YOU. Your story is about living your best life. You can take control of your narrative by radiating positivity, confidence, and self-LOVE.
I know this is easier said than done. Believe me, I have my share of ups, downs, ins, and outs, but along my journey, I’ve found some ways that can help you shift and control your narrative.
- Life is Beautiful – Find the beauty in the little things. Take yourself on dates. Do the things that make you happy. Treat yo-self.
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” — Ferris Bueller, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
- Me, Myself, and I – Besides God, you’re the only constant thing in your life. You have to enjoy being in your OWN company. We can’t always rely on others to do things with us alllllll the time. That also includes breaking out solo from those girl group bathroom trips. Being comfortable with being alone and not feeling lonely becomes your superpower in life.
“The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” – Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
- Learn to say “no” – Not many of us say it. Be clear on what you want to accomplish in your life. You have to set boundaries to enforce what you want to achieve. By setting boundaries, it shows that you respect yourself and demonstrate that you are the main character. It also radiates that you love yourself enough to work on something you care about.
“I love you, but I love me more.” – Samantha Jones, Sex and the City
- What’s wrong with being confident? – The answer is nothing. There’s nothing wrong with that. Confidence is attractive… it is also key. Know the difference between confidence and cockiness. Please don’t be too into yourself to the point of coming off as narcissistic. Nobody likes that. Don’t do that. Knock it off.
“I don’t skate through life, David. I walk through life in really nice shoes.” – Alexis Rose, Schitt’s Creek
- Do you, boo – Know your worth and stop comparing yourself to others. Embrace the things that make you unique (i.e. style, hobbies, etc.). The way you present yourself, how you dress… the things that make you… YOU. Know and recognize your value and what you bring to the world. When you step into that power, you’ll learn how to appreciate who you are – that is your main character moment.
“The things that make me different are the things that make me, me.” – Piglet, Winnie-the-Pooh
- Being the main character of your life means being responsible for your own choices, actions, and well-being. The actions and decisions drive the plot that usually results in the most growth or change throughout the story.
“We’re all stories in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?” -11th Doctor, Doctor Who.
You are the main character in the story of your life, put yourself first and take control of your narrative. OWN IT.